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Time

Time is more valuable than money. You can get more money, but you cannot get more time…Jim Rohn. Our time is a very precious commodity. It can never be stored or saved. Yet everyday we live and breathe, we give away our precious time. I think that is why we need to prioritize our time each day. Hopefully, our priceless time everyday encompass a spiritual connection with our Creator. After all, that is our bless obligation as human beings. I have learned this time spent connecting and meditating help recharge my often emotional exhausted soul. I gain inner peace and strength which help me to be patient with M. Honestly everyday we’re gifted, we should choose to focus our time and energy around individuals who inspire/support us in becoming our best. We’re all granted twenty-four hours a day to always do what is right not just for ourselves but towards our fellow mankind. If we slow down or not rush or expect everything be done in an instant, we will notice the blessings of patience and time. The simple things like spending quality time with family/friends or investing time in a meaningful goal will bring us happiness. Truthfully, I enjoy taking time to watch creation at work such as humming birds while sipping hot tea on our patio. Of course, I can’t forget about time with M blowing bubbles outdoors! Yes, taking time to make another beautiful human being feel important in our life is awesome. Time does change everything. It seem like yesterday, I was bringing M home from the hospital. This past weekend M lost his first baby tooth. He actually did not get overly hysterical about it. Instead, M used his calming words ‘OK & PATIENCE’. I was proud of M letting us wipe the blood away and collect the loose tooth out his mouth. Our M is progressing. M is teaching me these truths…we’re at our best and happiest when we take time everyday to connect with our Creator making our life more purposeful and wonderful…always treasure our time with family and friends…oh how time flies while creating memories with M!

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Emotions

Patience doesn’t mean making a pact with denial, ignoring our emotions and aspirations. It means being whole heartily engaged in the process that’s unfolding, rather than ripping open a budding flower or demanding a caterpillar hurry up and get that chrysalis stage over with…Sharon Salzberg. I am learning raising  an autistic child  build within you an inner strength founded on hope and faith. I am so thankful for family, friends and M’s autism community to help with challenges or difficulties. Living with and loving an individual with autism takes on a different perspective in life. For example, understanding how M communicate emotions or feelings takes a lot of patience. M can have meltdowns due to sensory overload in trying to express tiredness, hunger, pain, scared, or excitement especially all at once. Imagine canoeing in a peaceful stream of water, then all of a sudden hitting turbulence waters that begin tugging or pulling the canoe in different directions. Now, imagine how hard it would be to navigate those turbulent waters without a paddle or proper training on how to handle such situations. Life causes us to feel so many different emotions or feelings sometimes all at once. Our brain quickly process such rapid emotions or feelings in order for us to make adjustments. In M’s case connections to what emotions goes with what response along with adding words all at once can be overwhelming. However, M is making some progress in connecting words with objects and emotions by means of therapy. This morning M awoke at 3:45 a.m. He was emotionally tired, scared and frustrated. I had to find my inner strength to remain patient and calm while M worked out his emotions. He used his sensory calming strings and his music (JW.ORG children series Caleb & Sofia) to adjust emotions. Yes this process took some time, around 5 a.m. but he achieved emotional PEACE! M is teaching me emotions can derail our communication but exercising patience along with faith can help us overcome.

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Friendship

Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo; what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo break down…Oprah Winfrey. Perhaps, the true  beauty of friendship is to understand and be understood. In my heart the most beautiful friendships are often founded on shared values, beliefs, faith, love, common interests or goals in harmony with our Creator. My father used to say ‘if you’re bless to have at least one good friend you’re rich’. In truth, we’re surround by so many amazing human beings. Finding a friend who allow you to be yourself without judgement yet at the same time honest with you is AWESOME! Honestly, friendship is not always equal in the areas of giving or taking but rather understanding what each other need in that moment of our friendship and resolving to be there for one another. Our friendships should bring out the best in us. Yes, true friendship maybe healing therapy for our souls. I think about my friends who silently sat by me when I was lost for words, held my hands in prayer in my time of grief, or answered their phone at two in the morning when my heart was full of tears. Even when we do not have all the answers or ability to solve everything; we still pray and stand by our friends so they’re not alone.  That is a hallmark of true friends who care. True, every friendship will be different. After all, we’re all unique in our personality. Hence, every friendship we have will have its own dynamics. Sometimes our friendships change over the course of our life. I think that is normal especially if such friendship become unhealthy for us spiritually or mentally. I love when distant and time does not mean the demise of a friendship…natural kindred souls can pick up right where we left off the last time we saw each other. This past week M has hit a milestone. He actually did appropriate play with a fellow peer according to his special education teacher. M uniqueness on the autism spectrum presented some issues with M forming friendship with fellow peers. M is learning how to be a friend by communication and play interaction therapy. M is teaching me these truths… not to take for grant it the value of true friendship…I want M to have a friend that will understand and walk with him not only in the light but in the darkness…so he feel not alone…..having the ultimate friendship with our Creator…priceless!

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Foundation

It is not the beauty of a building you should look at; it’s the construction of the foundation that will stand the test of time-David Allen Coe.  It is often stated education is the foundation that we should build our future upon. However, I believe general education alone is not enough. Our education should be balance with the fundamental foundation stones of spiritual virtues encompassing faith, love, humility, kindness, and peace. It’s these secure foundation stones that will help us stand firm. Thus building within us amazing character qualities such as honesty, integrity, self-love, respect, loyalty etc.. I found this helpful because sometimes in life we may get bricks thrown at us but having a firm foundation of who we are and what we stand for will enable us to use those bricks as layers in making us hopefully stronger, wiser and a better human being. I was blessed with an amazing and wise grandmother, who only had an elementary school education. My grandmother like my mom had heart. She believed an individual foundation for life must be built starting with the heart. A grateful heart is not only an expression of humility but a foundation for the development of happiness, contentment and love. I honestly believe this is something learned at home. I hope everyone is bless with a solid foundation of family and friends. In truth as parents, we have a great responsibility to instill within our children a strong foundation of values rooted in our Creator. Regardless of our child ability, they’re a gift to us. Yesterday M was under the weather. Despite being ill, M kept saying “thank you” to me every time I would bring him pediatric electrolyte to drink and “no thank” to food. M is teaching me that you can’t build an awesome individual on a weak foundation, he needs a solid foundation of love, kindness, patience and understanding…I see you M!

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Peace

Happiness, true happiness is an inner quality. It is a state of mind. If your mind is at peace, you’re happy. If your mind is at peace, but you have nothing else, you can be happy. If you have everything the world can give – pleasure, possessions, power but lack peace of mind, you can never be happy…Dada Vaswani. I believe true wealth is having a peace of mind. This type of peace is connected to our faith and relationship with our Creator. Money, material possessions, relationships, or fame can come and go but having a lifetime of peace priceless. In truth, we will constantly be bombarded with obstacles that can make everyday living changeling. It is important to find positive ways to keep our peace of mind. I find it helpful remembering to be thankful, grateful, content and not compare myself to others. Yes some days are easier than others, on the hard days I do a whole lot of praying and sipping on some hot tea. I have learned negative emotions, not being forgiving and being judge mental can rob me of peace. Additionally, my peace of mind does not depend on other people changing but rather knowing I did my best to become the best human being possible. I want M to have a peace of mind. In a world where autistic individuals seem not to fit the general norm or expectation, it can be frustrating finding peace. Often times M has to stem to readjust himself. This may take the form of jumping up and down, twirling hands or feet, spinning, rocking or humming etc.. Some individuals not understanding fully M uniqueness sometimes try to stop him from doing stemming or onlookers give the LOOK. The truth of the matter, M has taught me stemming helps him make something or someone who seem upside down or backwards in is mind find a connection with his sensory…that then help his beautiful mind understand/adjust ultimately obtaining…PEACE!

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