In harmony with back to school shopping, many parents/grandparents enjoyed the tax-free weekend and back to school sales. It’s awesome when parents can save money especially on clothes or shoes for their children. However, parents like myself who have a child with special needs have a different method to shopping. True, M does not care about the latest fashion nor name brand labels. In fact, if it was up to M a simple tee undershirt and skippers would be norm to rock. However after driving all over town one weekend to find some shoes for M, I felt defeated. Although M did not care about color or brand of the shoes, M did care about the comfort/fit. Yes, M did not have to say a word but the expression and behavior testified to frustration in finding shoes to fit UFO/leg braces. Finally in the last store I ran into another parent in the same boat at that point I thought to myself why children like M do not have the easy luxury of variety of shoe options. That night as I tucked M little feet back under the covers, I realized it was completely understandable why M had meltdowns that day. That day M taught me many people have so many shoe options to purchase but for children like M just to find one pair of shoes to fit can often times be like finding a needle in a haystack. In my research online that night, I was so disappointed  that so many major shoe companies never consider designing shoes for children like my M to rock. Even my M can testify to deserving of options.

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In life sometimes expectations can be overwhelming or easily attainable. As M mom, I often shed many tears of frustration, joy, and heartbreak. I recall a school meeting some individuals felt M could not thrive in a typical classroom or gain no benefit from being among so-called normal peers. Often times people say things that feel like knives being stab in your heart. As I sat there in that meeting, my heart-felt like it was going to stop. My mind begins to wonder on images of M. For a moment their words faded from my ears. As the tears rolled down my face, I could vividly hear M say “love you”. In that moment, I realized doctors nor administrative know everything. After all, M was now communicating limited one too two words when before there were none. Somehow in the mist of everyone I stood up for M. Yes M see the world differently, but nobody will put M in the corner nor will they dismiss the possibilities M possesses. That evening M came and sat next to me on the sofa. M reached over and took my hand to hold. M never said a word nor looked into my eyes. However as I watched him humming next to me, I started to cry. In this rare moment, I felt like M sensed I needed to be comforted. That day M taught me that progress no matter how minor it maybe to outside world for children like M it’s still progress worth standing up and celebrating.

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Simple Act of Kindnness

It’s an official back to school season is here. As a parent of an autistic child, the first few weeks of school can be difficult. Yes, M did not care about getting new clothes or even rocking a new backpack with matching lunch box. Even before the first day of school came, I took M on a tour of new school courtesy of the principle. This was nice because M did not encounter the very busy meet and greet day which can be very overwhelming. The principle spoke kindly to M and took time to show every aspect of the building that would become apart of M daily world. On the last part of the tour the principle took M into the huge gym/gathering space. As M walked around the space you could hear a softly humming sounds. The sounds echoed off the walls. The principle realized that M was humming the tune to Twinkle little Star. Hence as if on cue, the principle walked over to the corner of the large room. Then the principle quietly sat down to a piano softly begin to play to Ms’ humming tune. I was amazed M was not startled. Instead M casually walk over to where the principle sat and begin back/forth motions. Before long Ms’ little hands were gliding across the ivory keys with the principle. I realized M had welcomed the principle into his world. That moment taught me that sometimes we take for granted small acts of kindness. However, such small acts of kindness for children like M can make an upside down world beautifully upright!

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