All of us have personal habits that’s unique. Such habits are patterns of repetition that often governs one life each day. For many children/adult on the autism spectrum such habits are sacred because they give deliberate structure to their life. In turn, structure allow them a sense of security. That sense of security help ground an autistic individual. Daily repetition matters when an autistic child is learning any particular skill or behavior. For example, a skill of riding a bike can be twenty minutes in a lesson or an hour practicing for a couple of weeks depending on a child’s development level. In truth, many things can be learned by the repetition under different conditions, even if the desired results was not obtained. In M case learning acceptable social behavior take repetition. The implementing and targeting specific behaviors for M to improve upon took the assistant of a behavioral specialist. As M’s mom, its heart-felt pain to see your child having difficulty adjusting to social situations such as school. Teaching M positive thoughts such as manners (please/thank you) instead of screaming when asking for something or physical actions such as taking deep breaths instead of kicking when frustrated requires constant repetition. The underline goal is for such actions to develop into a habit, repeated frequently enough, becomes an automatic reflex. It does take commitment and a whole lot of patience on the part of everyone in M’s autism community. However underneath all these difficult issues, I still see our beautiful M. I still shed tears over my son, not out of frustration but of fear. The fear that people may never see pass such behaviors to understand or love our son. I firmly believe any idea, plan, or purpose can be instilled in the lovely mind of M through repetition of actions and thoughts. Today on the way to therapy, I helped M get into the car. M said “Thank you”. M has taught me whatever we plant in his subconscious mind and nourish with repetition plus a whole lot of love will one day become a reality.
Simply an autism mom learning